We may not want to believe it but happiness is entirely available, no matter what. Attention itself makes us happy, not its object. Says Spinoza, "When the mind regards itself and its own power of activity, it feels pleasure." Allow me to emphasize: Pleasure! Not just boring old serenity. And it's not just regarding the mind that is so much fun. Attending even to something awful is surprisingly interesting.
Again and again, my clients describe the agony of anticipating and imagining a disastrous event. A huge amount of preparation and tension goes into preventing the dreaded thing, and yet the ACTUAL event is, without fail, a better experience than its imagining.
Psychology + Zen = Philosophy and methods to relieve suffering and reveal happiness.
Psychology: We project onto others what we reject in ourselves. Some call it a Shadow. Healing comes from making the unconscious conscious, taking responsibility for our projections, integrating what is split off as our own thing.
Zen: There is no separate self. When we can be at one with every aspect, then we belong everywhere and we reject no one.
We heal the world by becoming intimate with our whole selves.