For real and lasting change, you'll need DIPS: Determination, Intention, Practice, and Support.
D for Determination: When we've banged our heads against the wall enough, frustration points us to a new direction. Yes, this really is a step. Banging our heads is quite productive. It produces pain that leads us to an alternative (unless we have learned helpnessness, which is another conundrum addressed elsewhere.) We are determined to quit smoking, for example.